Elopement Weddings - All That You Need To Know

Published by - The Wed Post | 15 minute read

Weddings, as a matter of fact, are a very personal affair and the size of its celebrations is again a matter of the couple’s personal choice. While some girls have dreamt of a big fat fairytale wedding since the beginning of time, there are a few couples out there who just want to get married in a close, intimate ceremony. So if you’ve been thinking about having an elopement wedding, or you’re just curious as to what it is and how it works, here’s everything that you need to know about this novel concept.

What does an elopement really mean?

By definition, elopement means to do something in secret, so a really intimate wedding with just you and your partner, or a small celebration with just your immediate family or closest friends would be considered an elopement wedding.

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How does an elopement work?

Think of it as a normal wedding, just minus all the hurly-burly, logistics, planning, etc. You’ll be performing your wedding rituals or if you want to keep it really simple, exchanging vows either only with each other or in front of your immediate family or close friends. The idea is to not make it about hundreds of other people, and experience this special moment only with those who truly matter.

Why should I have an elopement wedding?

You save a lot of money

You don’t have to pay for multiple outfits, expensive bridal jewellery, extravagant decor, caterers and bartenders, phew, the list is endless. Since it’s the simplest wedding, you can pick a tasteful outfit you love and have minimal, yet gorgeous decor and save tons of money for your future together!

It’s your wedding, your way

You don’t have to listen to a million suggestions from your relatives or go house to house distributing cards and you definitely don’t have to worry about making your guests happy or driving yourself crazy planning the wedding. It’s your wedding, and you get to have it your way!

Freedom to do your own thing

You don’t want to get your hands tinted by henna? You don’t have to. Do you want to wear a white dress? You totally can! Do you want to get married in an exotic place? Go right ahead because you don’t need to worry about putting people up and planning elaborate functions. Don’t feel like performing any extra rituals? Well, there is no one who can force you to do anything. The beauty of an elopement wedding is that you have the freedom to have it entirely the way you want to!

What planning process?

To-be brides spend months and even years together planning their perfect wedding – choosing the venue, finding the right outfits, getting the right jewellery, going for hair and makeup trials - the list is endless and can be quite frustrating and stressful. When you decide to have an elopement wedding, you get to skip all of that.

Say bye-bye to cold feet

A lot of brides tend to develop cold feet right before the big day - which is mostly because they’re panicking about all the details of the wedding or if everything will go as per plan. If you decide to elope, it’s only about the both of you and you really don't have to worry about anything at all! You get to marry the love of your life - stress-free, no cold feet!

What a story indeed

Imagine describing this beautiful, intimate wedding to your kids someday - it’ll be quite the story and something so different!

You get to splurge on a luxurious honeymoon

Just think about all the money you’ll save by not having an extravagant wedding. You can now go on that luxurious honeymoon you’ve always dreamed of! Spend a month in Bali, book a long Europe-tour, relax in a water villa in the Maldives, spend a week on a fancy cruise – it’s totally up to you!

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How do I go about planning my elopement wedding?

If you ask us, the best kind of elopement wedding is one where you invite your closest people – a guest list of or less than 18-20 people, at the most. You tell them just a few days before the wedding, have a small ceremony somewhere special, share this precious moment with your loved ones and then share the news with the world.

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Why should I not have an elopement wedding?

You don’t get to have a big fat wedding

Every girl has imagined what kind of wedding she wants to have. From putting up a spectacular Sangeet performance surrounded by family and friends, to making a bridal entry with her brothers by her side, to having extravagant decor. If you elope, know that you might not be able to have all of this in a big way.

You won’t be surrounded by all your friends and family

If you’re having a small elopement wedding, you can’t possibly call all your friends and family. And if you’re a person who generally has a lot of friends and is close to your extended family, then it may be hard for you to enjoy this special moment without anyone around to celebrate with you.

No sangeet and baraat and all that fun

What’s the best part of the wedding? The fun of course. If you’re having an elopement wedding, you’ll be missing out on all the fun that ensues with your friends while you dance away the nights in all the functions. Now are you ready for that?

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Umm... so should I opt for an elopement or not?

Let’s put it like this. If you’re the kind of person who lives a very private life or if you like to keep special moments special by making them private and if you think a big wedding guestlist might take away the joy or the essence of your union, then a big fat Indian wedding is not your thing, you can go ahead and consider an elopement wedding so that it’s just you and your partner. To make it a little more special, we do suggest you invite your immediate family and your closest friends to celebrate this moment with you.

But, if you’re the kind of person with a really big friends’ circle or you love being surrounded by people and if you have been planning your big day all your life and would love to share this moment with your loved ones, we wouldn’t encourage you to have an elopement wedding. Have your fairytale wedding and enjoy it!